Tips to help you cope
If you are a parent, you will learn the challenges of raising a kid. If your child has ADD/ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), a neurological issue, the challenges are multiplied manifold. It’s completely normal to feel helpless and frustrated. But with patience love and understanding, you can come out shining as a parent. Know that your child needs therapy and a nurturing environment. Healthy lifestyle and a diet that is nutritious also matter.
Children with ADD/ADHD are simply wired a little differently than other kids, but they can learn to handle their time and space, if only you can allow them to make mistakes along the way. Be patient and kind with yourself, and with them. Accept that your child challenges you, and commit to providing them a calm, organized role model to look up to, as they learn how to manage their impulses. Let us take a look at some tips that are useful and practical that you can use as a parent:
Set A Schedule
Yes, it’s essential that kids with ADD/ADHD keep to a schedule, but it is just as important that their parents do so too. Schedule date nights to connect with your spouse without interruption, in addition to one-on-one time with the child’s siblings to allow them to talk honestly about any issues they might face. Be sensible about what you may agree to take on.
Though other people may offer to help by babysitting, you may be uncomfortable with leaving your child in someone else’s care. Make a list of all the alternative ways that you’d use some assistance, such as picking up your dry cleaning or taking your dog for a walk, and keep it handy so that when help is provided, you can gently suggest these chores without feeling guilty.
Don’t Order, Suggest
Structured choice is the key to avoiding power struggles with your child, so telling them something in a threatening tone will probably result in a meltdown. Instead, consider using a purely observational tone and gentle suggestions, perhaps with a time-frame, so that your child knows they have to finish a certain task within a fixed time but without being provoked.
Be The Example
It’s easier if you model for your child the routine you would like them to build. This might mean that when she sits down to finish homework, you sit next to her to cover bills and answer mails. Suggest scheduled breaks, and use this opportunity to chat about what you’ll accomplish in the next chunk of work time. Plan something enjoyable for you both after you have finished working, as an incentive.
Keep It Timely
Have clocks in designated places throughout your house, especially rooms where your kid is very likely to become distracted. Particularly for younger children, purchase the same digital clock to get in a number of rooms of the home, so the child is accustomed to checking their time in the same way in every room. This small change can have impacts for families affected by ADHD.
Feel The Burn
Children with ADHD frequently have extra energy to burn so ensure that they do so in sports which suit their strengths, like soccer or inline skating, which need constant, intentional movement. Play with them so that they can utilize this opportunity to bond with you.
Keep Control At Bedtime
Be cautious in creating and sticking to a routine that is bedtime. Due to the importance in maintaining their power and attentiveness through the day of sleep, try to keep up a routine. Tucking in your child can work wonders to calm them, lull them into sleep readiness, and reinforce the love you have for each other, particularly if it’s been a tricky day in parent-child interactions. Avoid keeping more than a few toys in the child’s room, as they will oftentimes choose play sleep; even if they are exhausted.